Erica
Hello my name is Erica. I lost my virginity at the age of 13. I am now 14. Heres how the story goes:
This boy Danny who I have been dating for four months was walking me home from school one day. We were walking and talking. He was a year older than me. I was in 7th grade he was in 8th. We started talking about school. H said he needed to stop by the pharmacy (you pass a pharmacy on the way to my house from my school) to buy pencils. So we walked into the pharmacy and we went to the "school supply" isle. He took a few pencils from the shelf and we walked over to the check out counter. We passed a "family planning" isle. He walked in it and I followed. He began to look at the condoms and asked me if I was ready. We had talked about sex tuns of times but never really did it. I said I wasn't sure but to buy them just in case. So we bought 2 packs of condoms and a pack of pencils.
Two nights later he came to my house for dinner. My parents were out of town that night (Friday night, Saturday night, and came back on a Sunday morning) and my older brother was away at collage so we had the house to our selfs. we went up in my room and were watching a movie. we were cuddling and kissing. i put my hand down and i missed the floor and found my hand on his pants. i quickly moved my hand to the floor. when the movie was done we began to make out.
we went down the hall out side of my house (i live in an apartment) and we went to the vending machines to get some snacks. he opened his wallet to get a dollar and a few condoms fell out. ( i let him keep the boxes at his house) He asked me if this was the night and i said sure. i picked up the condoms and we turned around to go back to my room and there was his older brother (his brother was best friends was the people that lived next to me) our faces turned bright red.
Danny turned to his brother and said "Erica and I found these in the vending machines." Danny's brother said "Danny I saw the boxes in your bedroom under your bed. I won't tell Mom or dad only if u give me one." So I gave him one and Danny and I ran to my house. We went into my room and began to make out again. We were laying on my bed and we took off our clothes. he got on top of me and put on a condom. it hurt a lot when he put it in me. i thought i was going to cry but luckily i didn't. he asked if it hurt and i said yes so he stopped. i began to bleed alittle. when he was taking off the condom he realized he had ejaculated a lot. He thought that maybe some got in me.
A few days later I told Danny that I had skipped my period and that my stomach was hurting me alot. so we went to the pharmacy and bought a Pregnancy Test. The test said I wasn't pregnant. we were both relived. We had more and more sex and are still together today. thank you for reading my story!
Maggie
i'm 17 years old, and i have been dating my boyfriend for about 10 months now. we were best friends for about a year before we started dating, and i love him with all of my heart. even though he's the only boyfriend i've ever had, i rarely doubt that i'll stay with him forever. i know it's naive, but i also know that whether or not i'm with him forever, he's made a huge impact on my life and i will always have a place for him in my heart.
a little background info on our relationship:
we took things very slowly at first, but when they finally started happening, they happened fast. so it was after a little bit of fooling around, maybe 6 months into our relationship as a couple, that we started to seriously talk about sex. it wasn't necessarily the next step, but we decided we should be prepared anyways. we made a pants rule - only one of us could have our pants off at a time, unless he had a condom on. obviously, then, we both agreed that it was absolutely never okay to have unprotected sex. since we were both virgins we didn't worry about STD's. finally, we also decided that should i get pregnant, adoption would be the only option. i'm pro-choice but i would never get an abortion myself, and we're just too young to raise a kid.
so now the part i'm fairly sure most people are reading this for...what happened, what was it like, etc...
it went something like this.
i was going over to his house after a rehearsal, and we had decided we weren't going to do ANYTHING - we were going to watch a movie without getting distracted whenever we had a moment alone (the movie was "meet the robinson's," if anyone cares). of course, as luck should have it, his sister was already watching a movie on the tv in the living room. he has a tv in his room, so we decided to watch the movie upstairs. we just chilled, eating chips and enjoying the movie. after a while, though, it was hard to be alone in a room with him and not kiss at all, so we started making out. to be on the safe side, he closed and locked his door. nobody else was upstairs, but it would be embarrassing if anybody came in.
things progressed, and there was some partial nudity involved, and finally we looked each other in the eye and i knew he must be thinking it so i asked him if he wanted to have sex. he said yes, but i sounded scared and he didn't want me to feel pressured - it was completely my decision and he wouldn't be disappointed if i changed my mind. i still said yes, so he got up and took his pants off and got a condom on (it was just over on his bookshelf). he came back and laid down next to me, kissed me, and asked one last time if i was sure. i hesitated, asking him if we could just kiss for a while because i was so nervous. he agreed and we kissed - it felt incredible to be completely exposed and warm against his skin...anyways, after a minute or two, i decided i was ready.
he got on top of me and we tried that for a few minutes, but he's a good deal bigger than me and i think that made the angle weird, so we switched and i was on top, which was much easier. we got into a rhythm after a while, and i could tell he was enjoying himself, but i was really uncomfortable.
at first, it had hurt REALLY badly and i kept having to tell him to stop and wait a second. it didn't hurt enough to make me stop - there was some distant aspect of pleasure, but it was overpowered by pain - but it was beyond simple discomfort. after we switched and i was on top, it was a little better (my hymen must've been broken by then, which probably helped) but i still wasn't really enjoying myself.
finally, after he'd asked me a few times if he should stop, i asked him to pull out, so he did.
after a little clean-up, we just laid there (shirtless) in each other's arms...and suddenly realized the movie had been playing the whole time - we hadn't noticed it at all. heh, ah well.
anyways, what i really want teens who read this to know are these last few things:
first of all, you won't know how much it will hurt for you personally 'til you try it and don't let that freak you out (that scared me really bad, but in the end, even though it hurt, it was okay). secondly, pretty much everything you hear will tell you that you'll regret it, even if it was right. but you know what? i don't regret it at all. i've shared everything with my boyfriend. i love him and i know he loves me too, and i know that it was right. it wasn't perfect, but we were ready. and frankly, i'm proud of myself. i'm proud that we were smart, that we were truly ready, and that we really were in love (and still are). so i advise that you be safe, and be patient - there is absolutely no rush and if you wait for the right guy (or girl) and the right time, you won't regret a thing.
Tanya
Hi, My name is Tanya. I am currently 17 years old. I lost my virginity when I was 16 on prom night. Me and my boyfriend went out for 2 months before that, but we broke up a week before prom. We decided for prom to be our big date and if it went good, then we would get back together. The prom was wonderful and afterwards we went over to our friends house where people were spending the night. It happened then. We kind of knew it was coming so whatever.
We got back together after that. Everything has been great and we have been going out for about 10 months now, after our 9 month i found out that he made out with a girl 2 weeks after prom ... when i lost it to him. I was crushed. He apologized and i forgave him because we were not in love then how we are now and i didn't want to throw away everything we have had after that.
Like a month before i found that out, I got into his myspace and i read some messages of him saying that "I think I loved Tanya, but i am very interested in other girls, sexually and i am afraid i will do something stupid." I knew that there was a girl he was talking to and i asked him whats going on? He said they were friends and that they just had same interest in soccer and such. Well, in that letter that i read he said that he likes her... like... interested and calls her hott and everything.. umm yeah i started freaking out. I confronted him about it. He appologized again but it's not that he cheated on me, but that he was thinking about it.. after that we just forgot that whole accident.
I still think about those things sometimes, and its hard. We are still together, but i regret it so much because we have problems and fights... and I mean every couple has those. But even though I love him SO much, i know we are not getting married, especially when he is leaving for college next year and I'm finishing my high school senior year.
It hurts knowing that but i wish i would have waited. Well yea, sex is wonderful thing to share between people in love, but i really really wish i could have it back. I would do anything for it. Honestly. I blame myself for it and he wont understand.. he doesn't. Just please wait.
Susan
I lost my virginity at the age of 20, it was the beginning of December 2007 and it wasn't planned. Me and my boyfriend, who I'd been with for four months (and still am today) had talked about sex in the past, he knew it was my first time and that I wanted to wait.
The year before I was in a lonely place, I'd left college the year before that and had lost touch with a lot of my old friends. I had very low self-esteem, always had since I can remember and I'd only ever had one boyfriend before. When one of my old best mates got intouch with me out of the blue to go out one night that week with some people from her college I jumped at the chance. It turned out I was going with her, another girl and two guys. They were all really nice but one of the guys really stood out for me. He was cute, tall, green eyes, but a bad boy. That was always my down fall, but I never expected anything to happen so fancying him from afar couldn't hurt.
We all went out a few more nights over a few months and the more I saw him the more I liked him, but even then I could tell he wasn't a good guy, but I'd not liked anyone or even been around boys for so long that I think I clung to him. Eventually I admitted to my friend that I liked him and she worned me off but it didn't matter. I got hold of his number one night and text him, just friendly at first but to my surprise his replys were really flirty. I wonderd if he could of liked me secretly too and the next time we saw each other out we kissed. I was so happy, but my friend still warned me off and over a period of months we fell out.
I look back on it all now and hate who I was then because he rushed me into sexual things, but I let him because I didn't wanna lose, what I thought then, would be the only guy who would ever find me attractive. He talked about how he wanted to have sex with me all the time, but didn't want a relationship, normally that would be the point you ditch him, but I kept making excuses for him. He just had a charm that no matter how evil he was I could find a reason to let him off. We went on and off for about a year, he continued to lie to me about other girls until one day I met his 'girlfriend' she didn't know I had been seeing him and I didn't say anything but it cut me up so bad. His mates had said he had diff girls most weeks and was cheating on his gf, only told her they were in a relationship to keep her sweet.
I was so stupid, there was one day I went round his, after about a 2 month gap of not seeing each other he had text me apologising and beeing foolish I thought he'd changed. I went back to his house and he tried it on, but I still wasn't ready to have sex, especially with him. After a while it slowly difted off, the text and calls faded and I'd met my boyfriend of today. He's amazing and I'm so glad I waited for him, we're in love and he treats me like a princess without being cliche.
It happend at his house, his parents were on holiday and we'd been chilling at his watching TV with some food. we were messing about on the sofa and he asked if I wanted to go upstairs. I said yes and to my surprise he'd laid out candels in the room, not loads to be corny but just enough to set a mood. It REALLY hurt more than I imagined it would, I asked him to stop before we tried it again. I'd cried a little, but he kept checking if I was ok and I loved him so much for that. Eventually it was over, I now know I couldn't have done that with the guy before he'd never of cared if I was in pain or not. Me and my boyfriend layed there for a while afterwards and he told me how much he loved me and I advise everyone, don't rush or settle for some stupid guy. You deserve more than that, someone out there will love you and give you everything you need.
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